A bully is
generally defined as a person who is habitually cruel to others who are
weaker. Unfortunately, kids of all ages are exposed to this type of
behavior. Bullying can start as the most simple of actions, from a sting
in the lunch room or playground that can paint a child as a weaker person.
However, it can become as serious as continued physical and emotional
abuse. There is no limit to the damage a bully can cause another child.
In this day of technology, there can be no reprieve from a bully, and a
child can be reached on the bus, school ground and even in the comfort of their
own home. Where and when does it end?
We offer
this one approach to try and end it before it before it can even
begin. As parents and caregivers, we cannot control the actions of
other children. What we can do, is teach our children to be strong and
listen to the voice inside of them. To speak up when they know something
is not right, takes the weaker person out the definition. As parents and
caregivers , we know how frightening it can be to send children out into the
world and let them stand on their own two feet. It is difficult in
the best of situations, let alone when we know there is someone being
unkind. However, no matter the circumstances, we still need to teach
our children to be confident on their own, because frightening or not, we
cannot be there every step of the way. One of the few things worse
than knowing someone is being mean to a child you love, is knowing they have no
idea how to defend themselves, or worse yet, thinking he/she is not worth
defending. The best way to stand up for children is to teach them how
and, and why to stand up for themselves.
What is an inner
voice? Well, to use the words of children's author Shel Silverstein...
“The Voice
There is a voice
inside of you
That whispers
all day long,
"I feel
this is right for me,
I know that this
is wrong."
No teacher, preacher,
parent, friend
Or wise man can
decide
What's right for
you--just listen to
The voice that
speaks inside.”
Here are three
suggestions from TPNN for parents and caregivers to help teach children to hear
and listen to their inner voice:
- Communicate with your children. Talk with your child about what happens during their days at school. Ask your children about bullying? Opening up the conversation with your child will let them know you are supportive and that what they have to say is important.
- Lead by example. Check behavior at home and demonstrate respect for all people. Children will follow the behavior patterns of parents and caregivers, and will show and demand the same respect they see at home.
- Teach your child compassion, caring and confidence. And if or when the time comes, you will support them. Teach your child to come to you when they need help.
Has
your family, or someone you know been impacted by a bully? Share your
story here and maybe help another family or child overcome their battle.
